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From Heartbreak to Fulfillment: A Journey Guided by Intuition

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If work feels like survival until Friday, it may be time to rethink what fulfillment at work really means. I’ve always enjoyed working, but I’ve learned that true fulfillment comes from something deeper – something that aligns with who you are at your core. This month, as I reflect on 25 years since my husband passed, I’m reminded how that moment shaped not only my life but also the way I approach work, choices, and trust in my own intuition.

For years, my work was satisfying on the surface, yet I always sensed there was more – something richer, something that truly resonated with who I am. The difference came when I started listening to my intuition, that quiet inner compass that guides us through life’s uncertain moments. It wasn’t always easy, and it certainly had no safe guarantees, but choosing to trust it has transformed not only my career, but my sense of purpose and fulfillment.

A Turning Point That Shaped My Path

When my daughters were little, I had stepped away from my earlier career to spend more time at home with them. By the time my husband passed, they were teenagers, and I found myself starting over from scratch. I stood at a crossroads:

  • Take the safe, higher-paying job that promised stability.
  • Follow my intuition toward work that resonated with my heart but carried no guarantees.

It was not an easy decision. Fear whispered more than once . The “what ifs” showed up checking to see if I was still sane. The safer path looked tempting many times.

And yet, I chose intuition. I chose passion. I chose the unknown.

Choosing Intuition Over Fear

That choice changed everything.

Work, instead of being something I “got through,” became something I looked forward to. It became a space where I could show up fully, create, contribute, and feel deeply aligned with who I am.

I discovered that work isn’t just about earning a living. It can be a source of joy, growth, and meaning. It can carry you through difficult seasons while still lighting you up inside.

Starting Over Taught Me What Fulfillment Really Means

Looking back, the real turning point wasn’t just a career shift – it was a shift in trust. I stopped outsourcing my decisions to fear or external expectations and started trusting myself.

That leap allowed me to:

  • Build a career I love.
  • Find financial independence in my own way.
  • Create work rooted in purpose, not just security.

All because I honoured that inner voice and acted on it, even when it felt risky.

An Invitation for You

If you’re standing at your own crossroads, here’s a question worth asking:

“What might happen if I trusted my intuition instead of the safe path?”

For me, it led to a life where I love my work every single day. And I believe it can open doors for you too.

How has trusting your intuition shaped your career or life? I’d love to hear your reflections.

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The Permanence of Impermanency

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It’s summer here in Canada, and I’ve gifted myself a new kind of summer experience: my own version of summer camp.

Rather than staying at our ever-nourishing family farm full-time, I’ve chosen a semi-reclusive rhythm by settling into a little cabin on a friend’s property. I say “semi-reclusive” because I still plan to return to the farm a couple of times a month to spend time with my daughter, her family, and all the animals. Honestly, I’ve lost count of how many goats and chickens we have now, and this past month, three cows delivered the most beautiful calves. There’s always something blossoming there.

I’ve been at the cabin for just over two weeks now and am beginning to feel at home. Yesterday, I spent a good chunk of time learning to be patient with myself while assembling a laptop desk, office chair and plant shelf. For most people, it might have been a quick job. For me? Let’s just say it was a slow and slightly comedic bonding experience with an Allen key and screwdriver.

Any other kindred spirits out there who break into a cold sweat at the sight of flat-packed furniture?

I’ve come to accept that I’m not exactly handy and that’s okay. Still, I wanted to create a little “office” space here, so I gave it a go. And I’m quite pleased with the result.

“I am free of the need to be intimidated by all these parts!”

I’ve come to accept that I’m not exactly handy and that’s okay. Still, I wanted to create a little “office” space here, so I gave it a go. After surviving the Great Assembly Challenge, I felt the final product earned a starring role as this post’s featured image!

This morning, while sipping tea and journaling, something interesting surfaced. Even though I was so pleased with my furniture assembly achievements, a part of me was feeling unsettled. I went into Heart Metta mode and discovered I had a part yearning for permanency. For the past 23 years, “home” has been wherever I hang my hat. I’ve always been good at settling in, whether it’s crashing on a friend’s couch, house-sitting, staying in hotels, or luxuriating in a peaceful Airbnb. I love having that freedom to roam.

So where was this sudden ache for permanence coming from?

I went deeper with Heart Metta and tuned into the voice of that wistful part. What I heard surprised me:
“You are always on the move, you only stay in one place for a matter of months at best!”

That landed. I followed the thread and traced it back to when I was unexpectedly uprooted from Canada as a child, suddenly on a boat to Hong Kong with my mother and siblings, no warning, no goodbyes. That early disruption shaped so much of how I relate to home and movement. I’ll share more about that chapter another time, and what I will say now is that event led to my not seeing my father for 43 years. Life brought us back together in a remarkable way, and I was at his bedside when he passed just months after we reunited. There was closure.

I’m sharing all this as a reminder that we are layered beings. Who would have thought putting together a few pieces of furniture would bring up so much? I’m deeply grateful for Heart Metta. It helped me meet this tender part with compassion. She’s settled now. She understands that impermanency is, in its own way, permanent. And with that, all parts of me are on board for this next chapter.

What has impermanency stirred in you lately?

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Why Listening to Yourself Could Revolutionize Your Productivity Approach

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Ever felt like your relentless drive for productivity only leaves you feeling more overwhelmed and stuck? The truth is, finding harmony between effort and rest is essential for overcoming resistance and achieving genuine results. In this article, I’ll share how I learned to stop being impatient with myself for avoiding tasks — and how that shift led to a surprising surge in my productivity levels. Get ready to discover insights that may help you reframe your approach to work, making your journey more enjoyable and fulfilling.

The Whisper of Inner Guidance

There are moments when our inner guidance whispers softly, yet profoundly, offering truths we may not have realized we were ready to hear. Recently, during a journaling session, my guidance revealed something I hadn’t fully acknowledged: I had been pushing myself too hard.

There were days when I didn’t complete everything on my to-do list, and instead of embracing the natural ebb and flow of life, I found myself growing impatient. That impatience stirred something unexpected — an inner rebel who resisted even more.

Uncovering the Resistance

Curious about what was driving this pattern, I turned to a Heart Metta session to explore my impatience. As I softened into the process, I tapped into the underlying cause of my irritation and began to shift it.

I received a gentle reminder that when we push ourselves beyond what feels natural, we create resistance. The more I tried to force things into place, the more my inner rebel pushed back, creating a cycle of frustration and unfinished tasks. My inner wisdom suggested a different path: to soften, to be kinder to myself, and to trust the rhythm of life.

Nature’s Wisdom: Go with the Flow

Nature doesn’t rush. The tides ebb and flow. The moon waxes and wanes. Trees don’t force their leaves to bud before the right season — even though the timing of seasons seems to be getting confusing sometimes.

So why do we expect ourselves to operate any differently?

By releasing the pressure I was placing on myself, I began to reconnect with the flow of life. I realized that when we listen to the natural rhythm of our energy, things begin to unfold more smoothly. Productivity isn’t about constant pushing; it’s about aligning with the currents rather than swimming against them.

The Gift of Softening

This message felt like a gift — a gentle invitation to pause, breathe, and honour where I am. Perhaps you’ve felt this too: the weight of expectations, the pressure to check every box, the impatience when things don’t move as quickly as you’d hoped.

But what if we allowed ourselves the grace to move with life instead of forcing it?

In giving myself permission to ease into this rhythm, I began to find a different kind of accomplishment — one that felt lighter and more peaceful. Tasks got done not through force, but through flow. The inner rebel quietened, replaced by a sense of harmony.

Unexpected Productivity: A Shift in Perspective

Interestingly, as soon as I embraced this shift, my day became more productive. Two tasks that had been lingering on my back burner for days were suddenly completed in just a couple of hours.

Who would have thought that by easing off the pressure, we could actually move forward with greater ease?

A Gentle Reminder

If you’ve been feeling that inner push-and-pull, perhaps this is your reminder too: be gentle with yourself. Trust that you are exactly where you need to be, and everything will unfold in perfect timing.

The more we soften, the more we align with the currents of life. In that alignment, true balance is found.

Wishing you ease and balance,
Sandra 💖

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Surrender and Co-creation

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I received this question from one of the people in our Ease Into Being community today:
“I would like to ask about surrender vs co-creation. I always set intentions and co-create my reality with the Universe, however I was recently asked if we truly surrender to god, and truly believe the Universe arranges the best for us, why we do need to set intentions?
This is a great question and something I have had personal experience with so my reply is based on my own experiences.
First of all it is about understanding what surrender means. For many surrendering still has the energy of giving up or at the very least giving in. There may be a sense that the battle has been lost and the opposite side has won. Certainly there is the energy of losing control. What if surrendering in this instance simply means letting go of attachment to outcome? When I have mentioned this I often hear the reply “but how can something happen if the outcome doesn’t matter to you? I thought you said our thoughts create our reality. I happen to think in terms of energy and vibrational frequency. When you need something to happen (ie attachment to outcome) the frequency being sent out is need. So what comes back is the need for whatever it is you desire. Here’s an example: money is tight, there may not be enough to pay all the bills that are due. You work hard on manifesting more cash. Instead of more cash coming, more bills appear! The car suddenly needs some maintenance work or an unexpected visit to the dentist is needed. What the &%*!, you may say, thinking you were working hard on manifesting cash and not bills! What happened was the need for cash was the energy being sent out so what came back was the need for cash in the form of more expenses. So how do we work on manifesting without sending out the energy of need when the need is very real? One phrase I use that has worked for me many times, is to say (and believe) “even though it may take miracles for this to happen, a solution is already present and I choose to have this problem solved now! Thank you Universe for showing me the solutions available to me”. And then the most challenging part may be letting it go. Anytime the problem pops its worried head up, you can remind yourself, “even though it may take miracles for this to happen, a solution is already present and I choose to have this problem solved now! Thank you Universe for showing me the solutions available to me”.
With regards to the second part of the question of ‘why do I need to set intentions?” There is such a thing as being too spiritual or too devout. The idea that ‘whatever the Universe wants to give me is fine’ is all well and good. That’s when we think we are apart  from the Universe instead of being part of it. It is like being hungry and sitting the restaurant of God/the Universe and starving waiting for the meal to come. You sit there, pray, hope, whatever, and nothing happens. That is because we haven’t placed our order. There was a time when I was too passive and had the attitude of whatever is divinely arranged will happen not realizing that we get to ‘arrange’ our lives each and every day. I do believe there are times that we get what we need which may not be what we want because of our soul lessons. That is why it is helpful to ensure we don’t have any monastic vows of hardship and suffering left over from past lifetimes. I believe we can learn really well without having to suffer!  Yes there may be pain and discomfort, that is very different from suffering. So back to the restaurant of God/the Universe. You say, ok, I’m willing to place my order but where is the menu? You get the menu and it is blank! That is because it is our own responsiblity to create the menu. That is where setting intentions come in. Setting intentions happens by creating the menu and placing your order. In replying to the original question about surrendering vs co-creation, the answer to me is that they are not an either/or. And in order to have harmony and balance with regards to what we manifest the best outcomes occur when we set clear intentions and let go of any attachment to outcome (ie. surrender)
Also in order to manifest successfully a series of conditions have to me met.
Perhaps that topic will be addressed in the next article I post 😀.
As always I look forward to your comments. Please post them below.

 

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Big Love

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It is soon to be another anniversary of the re-birthday of an amazing soul I have been blessed to love. This person came into my life when I was least expecting it (that’s how you get found) and he was to become my greatest spiritual teacher in more ways than I can list. Until I met him I thought I knew what ‘love’ meant – the whole ‘for richer, for poorer’ part, ‘in sickness and in health’, etc etc. I laugh about how if I was to see his profile photo on a dating site I would most probably never even meet up with him for a coffee! Our ‘chance’  meeting (no such thing right?) happened when I was invited up to the cottage of a friend of mine one August Bank holiday weekend. As it turned out, her cousin was there too as his father owned the cottage together with my friend’s mother. I didn’t initially  pay much attention to this guy who looked like a combination of Jesus and a biker but after we had both been snoozing on opposite ends of the front porch he asked if I’d like to go for a walk around the island. Well, very long story short that was the beginning of my coming to understand big love. This was a guy with the most amazing blue eyes who pointed out butterflies who was already showing me the divine in everything. I left on the Sunday while everyone stayed behind for an extra day and as I got into the boat back to the mainland I decided to give him my phone number and address for reasons completely unknown to me at that time! The next evening I had decided to go over to this same friend’s house for dinner and low and behold after dinner he shows up saying he had decided to go to St Catherines and since his cousin’s was on his way he had dropped by to say hi to her.
I later found out that he had driven forty-five minutes to my place, saw I wasn’t home and since his cousin was only another twenty minutes away he decided to go see her and there I was!
Three months later we were having lunch together in Toronto when a thought flashed through my head that I would be marrying him ( strange thought at the time) and three years later indeed that came true.
Why am I writing an article about this I ask myself? I think I am doing this partly to publicly thank this soul for showing me what big love we have inside that we are capable of sharing and partly to let you know that big love can come in unexpected packaging! Also, while we never know how much time we may physically have with anyone, I have come to understand that love never dies. The love we generate stays forever and never fades when we allow ourselves to be Big Love.
I came across a song yesterday that instantly resonated with me. Marc Maingard wrote this song and in it he says
Loving ain’t easy,
Who said it would be,
All that is you put in
Is what you get out …

Here is the song:

I have found this to be so true. The only thing I would add is with all that you put in, you may be amazed how much you get out of it and the getting seems to keep coming!
I dedicate this to Nick who gifted us two wonderful daughters and their sister Kirsten who stayed in other realms, a caring father and my dearest friend.
And I thank the Universe (aka the good Lord in this song) who is always present with Big LOVE.
Love never dies.

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It’s Wednesday and It Could be Monday!

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Looking online I see so many memes that show pictures of grumpy cats or frustrated people because it is only Wednesday and not Friday. For sure there are often times where someone is in an undesirable job out of necessity – mouths need feeding and no bank ever says “ hey, let us take care of your mortgage payments this year!”
It makes no practical sense at all staying at home waiting for the ideal job to fall into our laps and worrying about how to afford even basic groceries.
So yes, many times you may find yourself in a job that is less than ideal and the reason to stick it out is to be financially responsible and practical. The phrase that comes to mind is “be careful you are not so spiritual that you are no earthly good”. I recall visiting someone in New York who had no running water in her kitchen at all as she was waiting for some god to magically repair the plumbing. In her case, it wasn’t about affording a plumber, she was in a rental apartment and could have called maintenance to come and fix it. She was waiting for some god to change her circumstances. I found that out when I asked her why she had not called to get it repaired. She told me God was testing her faith. And for sure her faith was being tested as it had been months that she had been going to the bathroom to get water to cook with and wash her dishes!
There are times where people know they want out of a job and they can afford to move however the unknown is too daunting and the many ‘what if’s” become a huge insurmountable obstacle. Other times an inner voice may say “ why could I be that fortunate?” My reply to that voice is “why not?”
My mother, being a single mom who had four kids to support, instilled in me from a young age to have a career so that I could be financially independent and support myself. I did achieve that and what I discovered was even when I didn’t ‘have to work’ because there was sufficient family income to cover what we needed I did because I loved my job!  That not needing to work changed when my husband left the planet when my daughters were teenagers. I could have taken a job I was offered simply to make ends meet and yet I knew I was to follow my passion and stick to that plan even though financially it would be less rewarding than taking what was offered. I am happy I had the courage to do that and there were times where I felt I had to remind the Universe that I had expenses coming up very shortly! Somehow that worked out and I would earn enough to cover those expenses. I am getting an idea now for another article on how we can progress to the point where the funds are already there to cover any upcoming expenses without getting that close to the wolf being at the door and we can earn more than enough.   Prosperity and disposable income is truly a state of consciousness in my opinion and I am happy how some things seemingly unaffordable can miraculous appear quite affordably! I have also discovered that applying Quantum Business Principles when a solopreneur makes a tremendous difference. It was that discovery that lead to my creation of a six month Quantum Business Principles training for other people who are self-employed. 
It is Wednesday and I am happy it is Wednesday.  I choose to resonate with the happy dog in the photo above. I don’t have to wait till Friday or the weekend in order to be happy.
How about you? And what’s more, if Monday is a day where a smile turns into a frown because you have to go to work, will you allow yourself to explore what other job alternative you would like?
Your comments below may inspire another reader –  I invite you to share your thoughts. 

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Let’s be co-creative!

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The other day my grandson came in from the yard with an amazing five-leaf clover! He often finds ones with four leaves and this five-leaf clover was a first for both of us.  I think in my entire life I have perhaps found one or two four-leaf clovers so if I was relying on four-leaf clovers and luck to bring me good times I would not be having much fun at all!

I often hear people say to me “oh Sandra, you are so lucky!” My reply is usually that  I’m not that lucky at all, if I was I would win raffles and lotteries!

So where does my ‘luck’ come from? While my life is certainly not entirely free of challenges I feel very blessed that the challenges I do have in recent times are more like minor hiccups rather than major life upheavals. If you were to ask me how I have managed to graduate from my earlier life major upsets I would say, from my experience , when something of major intensity comes along that is life-changing we have two paths we can take. The first is to stay stuck in doom and gloom and have it influence us the rest of our lives negatively or we can acknowledge whatever it is we are going through and process it and if necessary, ask for assistance when it is too large to be processed on our own. Once that happens we find an inner resilience we may never even known existed and we trust our co-creative abilities much more readily.

I was fortunate that I was already on the co-creative path when calamity struck many years ago. Almost every day I would tell myself that even if it took a miracle for things to get better they would! Now decades later, and several miracles later I am a firm believer in miracles. There are everyday miracles that happen all around us that we may never have even noticed.

Miracles came to me with people coming into my life offering guidance and support.  Amazing opportunities came my way that I would not have even dared to dream about when I was in my twenties. The big miracle I needed most and achieved is that I am able to ask for and accept all these blessings with gratitude. These days I may still use the phrase “even if it may take a miracle..” for seemingly impossible situations. Thankfully the challenges are much more mundane. My passion is to share tools with others to assist them to get on their co-creative wagon so they can have a happier and more prosperous life. I figure if I could do it, anyone can. I  have found courage is alive and well when we are in the co-creative groove. It is certainly possible to push through and attain your goals with effort and force. That path can be a lot more lonely and tiring and may also lead to burn out and overwhelm. Trying so hard can become really exhausting!

Are you allowing the Universe to co-create with you? Are you accepting the blessings that come your way? Are you still learning what that is all about?

If you are curious about honing your co-creative skills I invite you to check out the upcoming events where we will be doing that in many different ways.

Let’s be co-creative!

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Embracing Change

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When I was a kid I heard this joke: two caterpillars were looking at a butterfly flying past them and one said to the other: “You’ll never get me up in one of those!”
Fast forward to me at the age of twenty-seven facing making a life-changing decision where I had no idea what my future would hold and I embraced change with the thought “I’m only twenty-seven, the world is my oyster!”  That proved to be so true until I was fifty when this time, change came whether I wanted it or not and again I found myself on a new path, this time as a widow with two teenage daughters. What kept me going the first few years after that was the thought ” Even if it takes several miracles for us to surmount this change and thrive in spite of it, I believe in miracles!”
I have had more than my fair share of disappointments throughout my life so it wasn’t as if my life has always been peachy keen. And, in my  opinion, whoever came up with  the idea that anything is fair meant they liked the result, it has nothing to do with justice. My experience with disappointments in my early years had left me reserved when it came to anticipating most things. I braced myself for the worst and held back being excited about anything positive until it was a done deed.  I didn’t get excited about moving into my first home with my husband until I opened the front door with my own key.  Nick was my best teacher and I only realized this after the left the planet. We never took each other for granted so it is not about that.  His practicality, generosity of spirit and complete unconditional love would assist me over the twenty plus years together to shift from being that apprehensive  ‘caterpillar’ into becoming excited about being a ‘butterfly’. I don’t think it is a coincidence that when he started his journey towards leaving the planet we were happily planning future events that were years away however neither of us knew our plans would  include being in separate dimensions!  He could leave because he knew I was ready to start a new path. And we both know that love never dies. When he left I thought my dream life had died. Shortly after, I realized it hadn’t died, it had simply changed. And, it was up to me to decide how I was going to deal with that change. And, I intended life to be good again! My thoughts of miracles have turned out to be a reality, I love the life I lead now, I embraced the change with open arms and am grateful to everyone and everything that has come my way to assist me to be who I am today.
Perhaps having a mother who found herself as a single mother in her thirties with four kids helped nurture my inner resilience. She was a momma bear, feisty and determined we would all be okay. She taught me to think for myself, to be free of the need of approval of others and be authentic. In the final years of her life when her health failed her and negativity and frustration took over she taught be to keep  intending to stay positive no matter what happens. I have wondered at times if she would have been different if she had been able  to receive counselling.  I have no regrets that Heart  Metta came after she had already departed. What is important is what is happening now,  the past is over and these days when I tune into her, she is happy and free of an ailing physical body.
How are you when it comes to embracing  change? Are you the caterpillar? Already  a butterfly? In a cocoon? Wherever you are on your path of metamorphosis, Heart Metta can assist  you. It is easy to learn and really effective.  Next month I am offering new online class using this modality where you can see for yourself how Heart Metta can assist you to embrace change and give you clarity  on your path to manifest the changes you desire.You can read about the Introduction to Heart Metta class here.
Have something you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you.

Selfish or Unselfish

Selfish or Unselfish

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I imagine that most of us would agree with thesaurus.com with regards to the synonyms for selfish in the above photo. When it comes to our own definition of what is selfish and what is unselfish there may be times when the lines are blurred. Growing up in Hong Kong I attended a school where the motto was Daily Giving Service. This is a wonderful concept, inspiring us to be caring, kind and responsible individuals. Like any virtue though, this works when it is in balance. Can we be too kind, too caring, too responsible? The answer ‘yes’ applies when caring becomes over-protective or controlling or we are kind to the point where we neglect ourselves and when we take over other people’s responsibilities and rob those people of the opportunity to step up and take charge of their own needs. What is the middle way? How do we know when we are out of balance? For those of you who have been too kind, you can recall the times your kindness backfired and people took advantage of you in ways you could not even begin to imagine.
One time when this happened to me, a friend said to me, “Sandra you are only upset because you thought this person had the same values as you. When you see that not all  people are like this you won’t be disappointed”. Her advice was well taken and no, I have not become a jaded cynic, mistrustful of everyone. Instead I have learned to refrain from being too trusting, for example, I no longer pay someone I hire the full amount before they even start work because I feel they need some help to get started. This happened to be decades ago where I paid a considerable amount to a young man to do some work around the house and he took the money and ran off to find his girlfriend who had just broken up with him.  I had given him the full amount because he was just starting out and I saw myself as a one person ‘crowdfunder’ to get him on his feet. I succeeded in getting him on his feet for sure, in the opposite direction from me!  I never saw him or my investment again. I forgave him for his lack of integrity and felt I had paid a handsome tuition for a life lesson that was worth way more than the amount I had given him.
We can be caring to the point of being over-accommodating. I see this with people who dread visiting someone and yet do it because they feel if they stay away it will seem like they don’t care. What happens though to the person who is receiving the visit who feels like their visitor can’t wait to leave? Would it not be better to visit less often and find a way to enjoy the visit? Perhaps that would lead to being able to visit more often or … not. I have a good example of this. I know a family where every year a woman would arrive on Christmas Eve and spend several days over Christmas with her parents. One year her mother said to me “ Oh, she is so exhausting, I wish she would just come on Christmas Day and then go home. I am wiped out after suffering all her drama after even one day!” Her daughter said to me “ Oh, I wish I didn’t have to go and stay for so long, it’s so hard to be around them for even one day!” I heard this when the daughter was over forty years old! I wondered why these people had to be so unauthentic and in their needing to be seen as caring were actually causing each other unnecessary grief.
Perhaps at times it is because we leap to conclusions that people cannot manage on their own, that they need our intervention in order to succeed. A friend of mine told me her sister had been diagnosed with cancer and needed chemotherapy. She was planing to fly a couple of thousand miles to stay with her sister so she could drive her to her appointments. I thought her sister had two adult sons who lived nearby and I asked her why they couldn’t help out. Her  reply to me was “oh, they are never there for their mother’. I suggested that perhaps she was not giving them the opportunity to do this if she was rushing to the rescue before even checking if they could help out. She agreed with me and waited and both sons stepped in and took their mother to her appointments.
Are you able to be of service, kind and caring while still being authentic, looking after your own needs as well as the needs of others? Do you have healthy boundaries? Are you able to step back and let others step up to claim their own responsibilities? Is the ‘good you ‘BE’ (I prefer that over the word ‘do’ that was on the mug in the photo) truly good for all people involved? I’d love to hear your comments and if you’d like to find out more on how we can find the sweet spot of balance of being of good service while listening to our inner wisdom, feel free to contact me via the contact form  below.

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Celebrations

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Are you a person who celebrates Valentines Day or is it simply another commercial venture? It is fun to get chocolates and/or flowers or a gift any day of the year and I love having flowers anytime whether I am given them or whether I gift myself them.
One time I was watching several men frantically buying bouquets in Hong Kong to give to their partners and I was surprised bouquets could cost that much from very average florists!   It was as if the token of love was measured by the size and price of the bouquet. I was curious how those people behaved the rest of the year. One year when my husband (then boyfriend) surprised me with a delivery of flowers at my workplace for no particular reason a doctor across the hall from me said  “Ah, enjoy it now, all that will stop when you get married.” Had he stopped going his wife flowers, I wondered? My reply to him was “You don’t know Nick!”
The flowers only stopped coming from him after he left the planet and if I want flowers now there is no need to mourn as I can go get them myself.
What I did notice after he left the planet though was initially I was at a loss. In addition to feeling the loss of a loved one, I was not feeling the loss of his gifts of flowers, I was at a loss for a vase! It was as if I had all these flowers of love and nowhere to put them. It was only after he left that I realized I had not been aware of my own vase.
When I mention self-love some people confuse it with ego or selfishness. They think that self-love means you don’t care about others and only care about yourself. To me, self-love is loving and accepting yourself just the way you are, with all your perfections and imperfections. After all, are we not all ‘work in progress’? Over the years, with wonderful assistance from others  I learned to discover my inner vase and replenish it regularly and these days I enjoy assisting others on a similar journey.
Today and every day may the flowers in your vase be plentiful!

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